Women Getting Trapped

I think I see more and more of my girl friends who have boyfriends getting into dangerous traps. Time is indeed a toil, especially at an age too young to wed (thankfully, we still are).

The twin traps are i) finances and ii) eros. The first is to be lavished expensively by one's man, from simple change for the soda machine, dinners to fancy gifts. My own sister received a new handphone, a platinum diamond (chip) necklace, weekly dinners at nice restaurants and someone to pay her handphone bills, amongst many other things (gosh, she has it better in a relationship than I do!).

The thing about women that men know too well is that most of us feel obligated to return the favour (pun intended) in some way. Machismo and (*true) social rules state that we can't go dutch. Truth be told, what else does a natural man, even the most patient, want but sex?

Thus eros is the repayment women give. Yes, I understand that own pleasures need to be fulfilled too and I bear no prejudices to those who have experienced it. The reality is that the issue is indeed a serious taboo indicated by the female (largely Asian... okay, my girl friends) hesitance to admit so.

Really, it is such a private, intimate space and pleasure I would personally seek to save for my *Mr Forever-and-Ever. Keeping it though, I'm sure, is very difficult and requires lots of willpower.

So if a woman gives it away, the man, while enjoying the pleasurable gratification has also got himself a ball and chain (touche!). Only difference from the married version is that he (if he cruelly wishes to do so) can remove it easier, without paying alimony.

For the woman who gives eros away (without the true intentions for own gratification),without having her man trap her with *financial guilt, now, that's a really silly girl. *wink.

I worry for my sister and my girl friends. I am even more worried about the girl who fell into both financial and eros traps.

Although I do wish to meet the woman who traps her man in finances and eros!